The best way to build self-esteem is to say kind things to yourself every day. This advice comes from Suzanne E. Harrill, author of “Empowering teens to build self-esteem.” Her book has pages of affirmations (positive thoughts) that you can say to yourself, whether you are a teenagers or an adult.
Actually, her advice is not new. About 90 years ago, one of the first proponents of a positive mental attitude (PMA) suggested saying to yourself, “Each and every day, I get better and better in every way.” It must work. Most self-help programs throughout the ages (decades, anyway) require PMA. It sures beats saying “I’m a loser” each morning.
Maybe it’s not as effective as having other people tell you how great you are, but no one can rely on praise from others. Don’t you love it when someone compliments you? Embarrassing sometimes, but welcome. So why not be generous and genuine about complimenting people you know deserve it? Too often, we think positive things about friends and family members but don’t tell them. Many of Suzanne Harrill’s affirmations can be directed to others as well as yourself.
