When you talk to and listen to someone, do you look him or her in the eye? Fifty percent of people say they don’t, focusing on the other person’s mouth or nose or anywhere but the eyes. Why? According to the book “The Human Face,” we hold each other’s gaze for about three seconds at a time. Any longer makes both parties uncomfortable. Is it too intimate? Flirtatious? Or just attentive? Depends on who you are conversing with. In any case, if you want to really connect with someone, go eye to eye.
Notice in the movies that couples in romantic scenes do it all the time. However, ”The Human Face” says prolonged eye contact indicates that one of two things is about to happen–the two people are either about to make love…or fight!
